Everyone has a story

One thing I have found with talking about what we are going through is that everyone has a story to tell you!

A story about a couple they know that just stopped worrying about it or stopped trying and than fell pregnant.
What people don't realise is most of the time when these couples have stopped trying, they have been on fertility treatment that most probably kicked their bodies into gear and that is why they fell pregnant when they "stopped trying" ;)

Or they may have started alternative treatment (such as TCM) that they have not talked about but has helped them to fall pregnant.


I really wish people would not tell me these stories because it's always implied that if we stop thinking about it or just stop trying than we'll magically fall pregnant....I can tell you know, that's not going to work for us.
 

 

Or there is the other kind of story that everyone seems to have (and tell to me)...the story of the woman or man who is on drugs, in jail, abusive or just not fit to be a parent and yet are having child after child :(


These stories do not help at all, I know there are people out there who do not deserve children but are able to keep popping them out and it breaks my heart that we have to fight to have one when there are people out there like that who are having children and not realise how much of a privilege it is.


I appreciate the intention that people are telling these stories with but I really wish they wouldn't.
For  me, they don't help :(
I don't want to hear about people who were successful on their 20th IVF cycle...to me that is not inspiring, it's scary and frightening