Always waiting for announcements

One of the harder parts of what we are going through is always feeling nervous of impending pregnancy announcements.

I feel like I am always on edge just waiting for friends and family to say they are pregnant. It's not a feeling I like at all, it's actually quite horrible.
Even if the people around us aren't even trying to fall pregnant, I still get that horrible feeling in the bottom of my stomach every time someone even begins to mention they have news to share.

You know when people do those ambiguous facebok status 'we're so happy at the moment' 'I can't believe it's really happening' etc....all of those kind of things always lead me to think the person is pregnant.
It's my first reaction to anyone being excited or saying they have something to tell me, when really it could be something as simple as 'I have a new job' 'I'm going on a holiday' etc...


It's especially hard if these sort of comments are made in person, my heart starts to race, I get hot flushes and start to sweat....doesn't sound nice at all does it? :( and this is only because I am thinking they may come out and say they are pregnant.

When people do tell me they are pregnant, I almost always just want to burst into tears. I can and do burst into tears if the person isn't standing there in front of me. But if they have told me in person that they are pregnant it takes every bit of strength that I have to hold back those tears and to let that person enjoy their moment, even though their moment has just crushed me.


If there were one piece of advice I would give to people about how to tell someone who is going through infertility that they are pregnant, I would say to tell them in a text message or email or any other way you tell them where the person doesn't have to react straight way (like they do in person or on the phone), at least that way they have time to process it, cry, get all of the crappy feelings that come with infertility out of they way before they call you when they are ready to talk about it and congratulate you.