Is it still taboo?

Is infertility one of the last taboo topics?

For the first year when we were trying I didn't tell anyone and even once we passed that first year I told people we were just starting to try for our second child.
I didn't want the pity or advice from others, but little did I know that talking about it was more likely to lead to uncomfortable pauses or changes of subject.

I don't know if it's just that people don't know what to say or how to react (which is completely understandable) but than I think about other tough conversation such as when someone has a loved one pass away, miscarriage, losing a job, relationship problems...most of the time people don't know what to say in these situations either but somehow they get through the moment.
When infertility is the topic of conversation people seem physically uncomfortable to discuss it and look desperate to change the topic.

Is it because it's the unknown? they don't feel they can talk about it because they don't know anything about it?
Is it because they don't want to say the wrong thing? or maybe because they feel it is such a private matter they shouldn't comment on it?


When I have told people that we will need to complete a police check to go through IVF people are more than willing to speak up and engage in an in-dept conversation about it but when you move on to discussing IVF they seem to want to end the conversation.

I want people to know that it's ok to talk about it.
It's ok to be inquisitive, it's ok to want to support those you love through their struggle. Of course this doesn't mean you have to be intrusive but you can follow their lead with the conversation or just simply ask them how it is all going and let them know you are there if they do need to talk.


Whatever the reason for infertility still being taboo, I hope that by me opening up about our struggles it will help others to be able to talk about it and slowly make it less taboo.
If there is one thing I hope to get out of our struggle, it is that.